Why I Don't Do New Year's Resolutions
At work yesterday, I got ask what resolutions I'm doing this year. My answer was as usual, "I'm not doing any." Cue a lot of questioning as to why. That's mainly down to one colleague's curiosity, but it really did make me think concisely about why I don't bother with them.
Now, as someone who has dieted and done 5Ks, 10Ks and various other endeavours I'm very familiar with that feeling of waking up one day and saying, "now. Today is when I make the change." And yes, New Years is like this. A fresh start, a kick up the butt, and a positive outlook for the year ahead. However, I have stopped setting myself any challenges over the last few years for much the same reason I don't give up anything for lent - I wouldn't enjoy the challenge.
However, I do have a bigger reason. I'm someone who is very hard on myself. Last year I began counselling to help with this problem as it started to cause me severe anxiety and stopped me from doing something I love. I have a distinct lack of self confidence, but I also hold everything I do to very high standards. So committing to some kind of stereotypical diet or exercise resolution is just an opportunity in two months to beat myself up as a failure at yet another thing. Do you see the issue I have with resolutions now?
In a previous post I talked about things I do to try and keep a positive mindset while dieting, and I feel like the toxicity of the diet industry is at its peak at this time year, which goes against everything I'm trying to change in my negativity towards myself. If you don't quite know what I mean by this, I find the diet industry to be based on deprivation, self-punishment and devaluing you as you are right now. We don't see these problems because they're around us everyday, but the majority of the time, they are there just under the surface.
I have a second reason for not bothering with resolutions. I think that if you really wanted to do the thing your choosing, you'd have done something about it already, even if it's just talk about doing it. If you were passionate enough about it, or cared about it enough, the start of a new year wouldn't be your primary motivating factor. But that's just my opinion.
That's not to say I don't have hopes for this year, or things I want to do. I have plenty. My main one is that I want to travel more with Chris. Getting married last year took a lot of our money and time, as did Christmas, so now we can look forward to a year that's easier financially that means we can go explore. I also hope to properly get back into my roller derby and learn how to ref it.
Perhaps you can relate to why I ditched resolutions, and perhaps you can relate to my reasons why. Whatever your new year dreams are, I hope you're doing them because you want to and not because of some odd duty. Take 2017 to take care of yourself without starting it off with a bout of self-flagellation.